Calling it a Day.
Its almost official, as of 2 weeks from now the Mr is having a permanent procedure to ensure that my overly fertile ovaries are never fertilized again.
We are finally calling it a day.
I’m a little sad – but mostly excited about closing that door of my life, and focus on raising our 3 healthy mostly well adjusted kids and not worrying about what could be.
I’m young but the reality is I don’t do pregnancy well at all, I hate it and ya know the last baby I had resulted in more the a few very scary moments (early induction, blacking out during labor due to extremely high blood pressure, postpartum hemorrhage resulting in surgery and almost hysterectomy). So yeah I’m 28 but I have 3 amazing kids and I’d rather quit while I’m ahead then risk not being there to see them flourish.
A few times when the conversation comes up and I tell people I don’t want more children, they look at me like I hate children — in particular my own. Totally not the case, I think its smart parenting knowing our limitations physically, emotionally, financially. But hey I will gladly love on your baby – and hand the child back after.
Kids are great, I’m just realistic about my situation.
SO tell me, Did you KNOW when you were done or did you just wing it?? (what will be will be??)
Comments
lisa@MummyManifesto
July 4, 2014 at 12:23 pmHi there, i found you via Sonia (Weekend Rewind). I knew as soon as I found out I was pregnant with Number 3 that it would be the last time. My boys kept getting bigger and I knew I couldn't cope with no4. Lovely photos of your bubba.
Karen
July 5, 2014 at 10:49 amI love your statement "I think it's smart parenting" – I'm going to use that one! I have one little Sweet Pea, she is almost 2 and I know "I'm done". I knew before I fell pregnant with her that I only wanted one child and I have not changed my mind (and neither has my partner). I know that this decision is very smart parenting for us and that she will benefit from
Elizabeth Collins
July 6, 2014 at 8:49 amI so totally didn't know – we were convinced we were going to have three, we discussed it many times, we told everyone Ash wasn't our last (despite MANY assumptions he was because we had our perfect pair), and he was such an easy baby that I was fine doing it again. I am lucky enough to have fairly easy pregnancies, and even easier labours (I know – VERY lucky)! And yet – here we are,
Sonia LifeLoveandHiccups
July 6, 2014 at 9:10 amI thought I was done and we went ahead and had the snip (i say that like it was me getting the snip lol) but a year later I started to regret our decision. I think it was more the case of wanting something I could no longer have… or maybe it was true regret. I'm not really sure xx
Michaela Fox
July 6, 2014 at 9:54 amI think my situation and past experience mirrors yours. I narrowly avoided a hysterectomy after a PPH, two weeks after delivering my third baby. It was scary and I took a while to recover. At the time I was so relieved the doctors saved my uterus. I just wanted to have that option to have another baby still in tact. It's been two years now and we are having the conversation about the "
Sammy
July 9, 2014 at 8:44 amI never had a choice but wanted 3. I am so happy now though, I don't think I would change it even if I had the option to…xx
Lauren Lifeimagined
July 10, 2014 at 3:10 pmGreat post, not something I hear brought up often. I as well am in the camp of "not easy pregnancies". I have two healthy babes and do not want to face another loss. It's a hard decision but you know when you know. <br />Glad to find you from Casey's blog.
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